Thoughts of privilege blind spots

It really speaks of the privilege and the arrogance of historically privileged people (usually middle- and upper-class white men) that they still feel, even the ones who can be called allies for underprivileged groups, that they get to say how much protest is justified and when it becomes too much. That they think they're the arbiters of fair treatment and equality, that they can confidently say which kind of objection or fight is reasonable and which is being too sensitive or nitpicky.

I think maybe the hardest concept to understand in the discourse of privilege is that the ones with the privilege in any given dichotomy need to sit down and listen, and they don't get to set the tone, mark the boundaries or define what is ok and what is too far. The ones affected by the specific injustice do. There are few things more infuriating than a man who considers himself a liberal and a feminist stepping in to tell us which way to go and when to stop because it's getting too much. No, you don't get to say what is too much here, we do, because we're at the receiving end of it. The whole point of the fight is to get rid of the things that hurt us. It really shows how deeply ingrained privilege and self-importance are when men want to not only set the tone of the whole social structure, but of feminism, too.